If you feel that something is missing in your sex life or you’re dissatisfied by her enthusiasm in the bedroom, then you may need to rethink your current situation.
Below are some sure signs that your sex life is suffering and what you need to do to resolve this problem.
You Feel That Sex Is A Reward For Good Behaviour
If you take her out for dinner, buy her gifts and compliment her then you know you will be getting laid. However, if you don’t do anything, then you know you won’t be getting any. So whats the issue?
- You have to be on your best behaviour to get laid.
- She uses sex as a bargaining tool.
- She has trained you to think that sex is a honour, not a right.
What should you do about it?
The next time you behave the way she likes you to and she initiates sex, pass on the offer.
The next time you misbehave and she says,”no sex tonight’’, tell her, “I’d rather masturbate anyway.’
The best thing to do is to make it clear that sex is not a bargaining tool that she gets to play about with. If she continues to deprive you of sex, then I recommend you take another look at your relationship and go and get it elsewhere.
You Would Rather Masturbate Than Have Sex With Her
Instead of having sex, you would rather play with yourself as it’s quicker and easier that way.So what’s the issue?
- You find it takes you ages to bring her to orgasm
- The sensation of her vagina doesn’t do it for you
- You are falling out of touch with women sexually
- There are deeper issues in your relationship that you cant be bothered to address
What should you do about it?
If the problem involves her then you need to confront it. Ask her to discuss her sexual fantasies with you and open up to them. She may share the same fantasies as you. You will only find out if you ask.
Also, don’t worry if she doesn’t have an orgasm every time you have sex. It’s her responsibility to get herself off too, not just yours.
She Never Initiates Sex
Every time you want to have sex, you can, but its always you who has to make the first move and never the other way around. So what’s the issue?
- You don’t feel needed
- She may think that women who initiate sex are sluts
- She may think that you think that women who initiate sex are sluts
- She thinks lying there and letting you do all the work means she is participating
What should you do about it?
Ask her if she feels desired every time you initiate sex. When she says yes, tell her that for you to feel desired, she needs to initiate sex every now and then. And a blowjob wouldn’t hurt either.
If she tells you that she is shy then you initiate sex but tell her that you want her to get more involved. Gradually break her out of her shell.
You Don’t Feel Satisfied
You have sex but you often feel unsatisfied afterwards. Sex with your woman is beginning to feel like a chore rather than a pleasurable experience. So what’s the issue?
- She just lies there and takes it thinking that’s all she needs to do to satisfy you
- There are other things on your mind that are stressing you out, making it difficult to have sex
- You need more than just penetration
- You are not happy in your relationship
What should you do about it?
You need to confront the situation by asking your woman to show you her best moves in the bedroom. Try having sex in different locations, and experiment with new positions. Discuss your fantasies with her. Maybe watch some porn together and get a better idea of what you both like.
If there are other factors that are making you unhappy in your life then you need to figure out why and how you can make your situation better.
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