Let’s face it; you rarely get a second chance to make a good first impression. How you conduct yourself on the first date will determine whether or not you get a second one. There are many mistakes that men often make that destroy their chances of seeing the woman again that they’ve worked so hard to find – worst of all, they don’t even know they’re doing it.
For a successful first date, avoid the following dating mistakes.
Forget to look your best – You must make some effort to look good. We’re not suggesting that you wear a suit (unless your planned date calls for it), but you must dress appropriately for the occasion. Dressing to impress on a first date will; increase physical attraction, boost your confidence, create a positive first impression and show respect. She will without doubt go to a lot of trouble to look nice for you. The least you can do is return the favour. Note: if you need further help, check out How to Dress for a First Date: Your Ultimate Guide.
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Show up too early or too late – If you set a time for the date, make sure you’re on time. Arriving late is disrespectful and rude. If you’re running late due to unforeseen circumstances, call and let her know how long you’re going to be.
If you’re picking her up from her place, don’t arrive too early. It’ll not only make you appear over-anxious, you’ll probably catch her unprepared and she’ll still be getting ready. If you arrive earlier than you planned, wait until the scheduled pick up time before you knock on her door.
If you’re meeting her somewhere, arrive at the venue on time. Walk up to her in a confident, relaxed manner, smile and ask her how she’s doing and compliment her looks.
Buy her a gift – You do not need to bring a woman gifts on a first date. This includes flowers and chocolates. The purpose of the first date is to get to know each other. When you give her a gift, you’re trying to buy her affection. Let her find out what other things you have to offer her.
Put on an act – Many men attempt to attract women by trying to be someone they’re not. Do not put on an act. Simply be yourself. She was attracted to you when you first asked her out on a date, so why act differently? Not only will she see through it, but you’ll lose her trust early on, potentially destroying any chance of a relationship.
Constantly look for her approval – Most women have a mind of their own and won’t agree with every little thing you say or do. It’s important that you also have a mind of your own. Agreeing with everything she says screams that you’re needy, which is an unattractive trait to have. If you disagree with something she says, make a point and challenge her.
Forget to plan a few conversation starters – When you’re on a first date, it’s not unusual for there to be a few awkward silences. Leading up to your date, take time out to catch up with current events and topics (not boring political or negative stuff).
Get her to talk about herself and things she’s ambitious about. Your conversation should be light-hearted, fun and naturally flow. Note: if you need further help, check out The Art of Dating Conversation: Dos and Don’ts.
Get drunk – It may be tempting to down a few glasses of wine for a bit of Dutch courage when you’re on a first date, but the more you drink, the more you’re at risk of doing or saying something stupid that insults your date or makes you look idiotic.
Tell her your negative traits – Everybody has certain faults and flaws to a degree. Constantly talking about yours will ensure that she stays away from you for good. Never put yourself down. Instead of focusing the conversation on you, encourage her to talk more about her interests.
Talk on your phone – Unless it’s a really important phone call, there’s no reason for a call to interrupt your date. This also means texting. All your focus should be on your date. If your phone happens to ring, check who is calling, if it’s not an emergency, hit the ‘end call’ button and ignore it. You can always call them back after your date.
Conduct an interview – Don’t ask her the same old boring questions. Don’t treat the first date like an interview. Avoid questions such as, ‘how old are you?’ and ‘what’d you do for a living?’ Avoiding these questions will separate you from the other men she’s dated and lead to more interesting conversation topics.
Not listening – A lot of guys panic and make the mistake of trying too hard to come up with things to say. If you actually listen to her and expand on her conversation, you’ll never run out of things to say. Ask follow up questions and comment on something she’s said. The conversation will naturally flow and you’ll never run out of things to talk about.
Not paying the bill – Don’t let the check sit on the table for a long period of time. It creates an unnecessary awkwardness where she’ll feel unsure whether you’re expecting her to split the bill with you, or whether you’re waiting for her to pay for it.
When you get the check, simply move it next to you so she can see that you plan to pay the bill. Then continue with your conversation.
Going to boring places – If she finds the first date boring, then you’re finished. What you do on a first date is very important. Although dinner dating and movies are nice, they’re predictable and she would’ve been on plenty of dates like this before. You want to stand out from the rest of the men she’s dated. Take her bowling, to an amusement park, a zoo or even better; come up with your own unique and fun ideas she’ll enjoy.
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