In a recent men’s health survey, premature ejaculation is one of the biggest concerns amongst sexually active men. Nearly 75% of those surveyed said that they want to know how to last longer in bed.
The good news is that the average man lasts only 5 to 10 minutes in bed.
So, don’t think that it’s normal when you see a male pornstar lasting longer than 45 minutes – it isn’t. There are all sorts of tricks involved.
Premature ejaculation can be defined as having an orgasm anytime before you’d like to. If this is you, there are ways you can improve and enhance your ability to control your ejaculation and last longer in bed. Be better at sex by following the tips below.
Start-stop method – This is a tested method that helps men last longer and prevent premature ejaculation. When you feel that you’re about to cum, hold back and stop everything. When you feel like you’ve calmed down, continue to have sex. Again, when you feel that you’re about to cum, pull back and stop. This may sound like self-administered torture, but there’s a perfectly good explanation. What you’re doing is training yourself to find the moment before orgasm when you’re about to explode. Instead of ejaculating, you refrain from stimulation and allow the sensation of orgasm to subside. You’re teaching your body and mind to stretch out the sexual response cycle and increase the time between the excitement and orgasm phase. Practice this method and you’ll begin to notice that you’re able to last longer in bed.
Squeeze the head – When you feel like you’re about to ejaculate – stop and squeeze the penis just below the head for about 5-30 seconds. This pushes blood out of the penis and temporarily delays the ejaculatory response.
Control your masturbation – Try to masturbate for longer periods of time than you usually do. Set a longer time limit, say 15 minutes, bring yourself to the point of no return, but don’t let yourself ejaculate until time is up.
Try out different sex positions – The most popular sex position is missionary, which is also the position associated most with premature ejaculation. This is because muscular tension is increased as the man needs to support his body weight. Try different sex positions that limit muscular tension such as cowgirl, spooning or doggy style.
Please her first – Make her orgasm first. Give her oral sex, use your best fingering techniques, and stimulate her clitoris and G-spot.
Don’t thrust – Press the end of your penis into her clitoral head, keeping it around the entrance of her vagina, where most of the sensitive nerve endings are. Don’t go so deep; just penetrate the first 2-3 inches.
Master foreplay – Find out what she likes and spend more time doing it. If she takes 15 minutes to reach orgasm and it only takes you 5 minutes, then spend 10 minutes on foreplay, so when you enter her, you can share an orgasm together.
Go for a second round – If you blew your load early the first time, take a break and then try again. Most men last a lot longer the second time around. The more you practice this, the longer the first time will last.
Try desensitizing creams – You can buy special creams that de-sensitize the head of your penis. It works by freezing the tip of your penis, which allows you to last for longer periods of time. You can find these creams in both nationwide sex shops and online.
Stop thinking about your orgasm – One of the main causes of premature ejaculation is when you think too much about not ejaculating fast. The more you think about it, the more it is likely to arrive. Focus on what you’re actually doing rather than thinking about when you’re going to ejaculate.
Perform kegel exercises – A kegel is an exercise that helps tighten the muscles responsible for ejaculatory control. You can find these muscles by cutting off the flow of urine and then starting and stopping it repeatedly. Practice flexing these muscles anywhere; at your desk, in the shower, on the train. Tighten your muscles and hold for a count of 10 and then release. Exercising the Penis is a great guide on increasing the size of your penis and controlling premature ejaculation.
Practice, practice, practice – Like with anything, to become good you must practice often. Use the above tips and over time premature ejaculation will be a thing of the past.