Your girlfriend could be deep throating your cock right now. But she isn’t. Why? There are a few reasons why some men never experience the sensational feeling of a deep throat blow job. We all know that being able to deep throat isn’t something that a woman can naturally do (or, at least, not most of them) – it’s a skill that a woman learns through years of practice and experience. Some women learn how to do it – some don’t. As you’re reading this, I’ll assume that she hasn’t and you want her to learn how to deep throat you.
What is a Deep Throat Blow Job?
In order for her to perform this type of oral sex, she needs to engulf your erect penis in her mouth past the epiglottis (the piece that hangs at the entrance of the throat). Your erect penis is taken as far down as possible and, assuming that it’s long enough, to the point of somewhat swallowing it. If she’s able to, her lips will be able to touch the base of your penis and your testicles.
She’ll probably make gurgling and slurping sounds which can be a major turn on. Coughing and gagging sounds are also usually made, arousing both for the auditory aspect and because her throat and mouth will tighten even harder around the shaft of your penis.
Communication is the First Step
A deep throat blow job requires a great deal of skill. However it’s a skill ANY woman can learn, especially your girlfriend – as long as she’s enthusiastic and willing to practice. I know she can do it, and you do too. The only one that doesn’t know it is HER. She makes excuses saying “I can’t deep throat because of my gag reflex, or else I’ll puke,” or she doesn’t even try to and gives up right away.
If you want her to deep throat you – then it’s your job to convince her to put in the effort to learn to deep throat and control her gag reflex once and for all. Take the time to explain to her that you’d like her to give you a deep throat blow job. Let her know how much you value her and how much you enjoy getting blowjobs from her.
Suppressing Her Gag Reflex
Women have different sensitivities to the gag reflex – she’ll need to suppress it. If she doesn’t want to try it out on you first, then have her practice on an object similar in size – preferably a flexible dildo.
A short term solution is for her to use a numbing throat spray. These are generally available in a variety of flavours. She can also use a water based lubricant while giving you a deep throat blowjob. Although it’s generally used for vaginal and anal sex, an edible lubricant will decrease her gag reflex that’ll help her deep throat you.
A well known long term solution to suppress her gag reflex is by using a toothbrush. All she needs to do is brush her tongue as far back as she can reach, without gagging and choking, and maintain the brushing motion for a few minutes. She should repeat this process daily, and move the toothbrush back a little further into her mouth every day. Her gag reflex will eventually relax and she’ll become more confident at feeling something in the back of her throat.
Lastly, be patient with her. Suppressing her gag reflex will take a lot of time and practice.
Now let me give you some practical tips that you can apply immediately, the next time your girl gives you a blow job. Here are some useful tips that’ll convince her to go deeper.
Don’t Choke Her
The first thing that’s stopping her from deep throating you is fear. She’s afraid that if she goes deeper than her current comfort zone, she’ll puke all over you and embarrass herself. Allow her to be in control of the situation. If she needs to pull out, don’t force yourself further into her mouth. Unless she likes you forcefully holding her head in place whilst she’s deep throating you, don’t do it! It’ll only make her panic and she won’t want to do it again.
Try Different Positions
There are a number of different positions that a deep throat blow job can be performed. One is for you to stand or sit on the edge on the bed while she kneels in front of you. Another is the 69 position with her on top. Since the penis naturally bends upwards towards a man’s torso, there will be less pressure on her throat.
Another popular position to try is when she lies face up on the bed with her head hanging over the edge while you stand, or lean slightly forward in front of her. This position basically lines up the throat and mouth, aiding penetration. As she’ll feel like she has less control over what she’s doing, go slow and don’t force it down her throat.
Build-Up Her Confidence
When she’s giving you a blow job, tell her in a firm and confident manner to go a bit deeper. Ask her “How deep can you go” and smile. Make it a challenge for her, not a chore. When she goes deeper, compliment her. Let her know that you’re enjoying what she’s doing. Moan “Mmmmm…”, “That feels so good”. Compliments can get you far. This will also motivate her to improve.
Train Her to Love Deep Throating
Getting her to deep throat isn’t as hard as you think. First step, explain that you want her to deep throat you. Second step, let her practice. As long as you do it in a confident way, she’ll go along with it. Don’t be judgemental and let her take her time. Don’t tell her that she’s doing it wrong – guide her instead. The next time she gives you a blow job, and she tries to deep throat you a bit – once she goes deeper, tell her to hold it there for as long as she can. This’ll get her used to being that deep. It will be easier for her the next time, and then the time after that. Sooner or later – your girlfriend will be deep throating you like pro!
