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A Guide to Flirting With Women

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Flirting with women is something that men often feel uncomfortable doing. However, if you want to attract women then you need to know how to flirt with a woman.

Mastering the skill on how to flirt with women is a great mystery to most guys. We’ve all been there… you start a conversation with a girl, asking her the typical questions such as “Where do you come from?” “Can I get you a drink?” and “Do you come here often?” Everything seems to be going okay, but there doesn’t seem to be any chemistry. She doesn’t make it easy for you, and she’s not showing any signs that she’s interested. Eventually you run out of topics to talk about and you decide it’s probably best that you end the conversation all together, instead of running the risk of any further awkward silences or being rejected.

If you don’t know how to talk to women in a flirtatious way, you’ll end up boring her and she’ll lose interest. If you’re shy, unconfident, or just inexperienced in triggering attraction in a woman, then this article is for you. It’s actually rather easy once you know what you’re doing.

What is Flirting?

When you hear the word ‘flirt,’ what do you think? One of the main reasons that so many men struggle with flirting is because they don’t fully understand what it is. If you look it up in an encyclopaedia, you get this definition:

“Flirting is a form of human interaction between two people, expressing a romantic and/or sexual interest. It can consist of conversation, body language, or brief physical contact.”

Now, do you think the first sentence will help you learn how to flirt? Naturally, you’ll be hesitant to “express a romantic and/or sexual interest” in a woman straight away. What if she gets annoyed, finds you a bit weird, or rejects you? That really would make flirting a horrible experience. However, if you understand how to flirt with women you can make it something that you actually enjoy doing.

When you hear the word ‘flirt,’ think of witty banter, teasing, laughing, slight sexual tension, and most importantly; no particular outcome. It’s a fun, playful way of communicating with a woman that lets her know that you’re attracted to her, without coming right out and saying it. Here’s how to do it:


The easiest way to start flirting with a woman is to playfully tease her. Make tongue in cheek comments about something she says, how she is acting or something you notice about her.

When you learn to listen and observe a woman you quickly find things you can flirt and tease her about; being blonde, acting bossy, being gullible, having a wild side etc. Just remember to keep it playful and light.

Using sarcasm is another great way to tease a woman. When she says something that’s really obvious, you can reply with, “Really? Wow. That’s the most interesting thing I’ve heard all day.” Say it with a sly smile, eye contact and in a sarcastic tone of voice, and she’ll get the fact that you’re saying it “tongue in cheek.”


Statements that can have double meanings: one formally appropriate, the other sexually suggestive. There are plenty of words you can twist around to create sexual meanings. We, juicy, hard, fast…there’s hundreds. For example, if she says her meal is big, you can reply with something like “Big can be a good thing, don’t you think?”If you set your mind to it and look for opportunities, you’ll be surprised at how many things you can accidently misinterpret as sexual innuendos.

Body Language

Body language is very powerful and it’s by far the most neglected area of seduction. It reflects your mood and emotions, and transfers them to the person you’re with. A lot of guys get too nervous when talking to women and their body language displays bad posture and unconfident eye contact. All of these things undermine what you’re saying to a woman, and make her think that you’re trying to be someone you’re not.

This is why it’s important to display sexy body language when playfully flirting with her.

Here are some body language pointers that’ll help build attraction:

  • Appear relaxed and laid back
  • Angle yourself to her instead of standing full-frontal
  • Briefly touch her as you talk
  • Be lively
  • Keep eye contact
  • Give coy smiles

Make Her Flirt With You

Now you know how to flirt with women, it’s also important that you know how to get the woman to flirt with you as well. There is a technique in the book How to Become an Alpha Male by John Alexander that actually tells you what attraction signals to look out for and how to get the woman flirting with you first. I highly recommend you read it.

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